It is possible, however, to approach someone without judgment. When you meet someone, stop if you find yourself beginning with judgments, and instead, at the introduction, acknowledge several ideas silently inside yourself :
- No one is in my life by accident; life is a mirror.
- What may the Creator of the universe be reflecting for me to see?
- Each of us is an integral, purposeful, necessary part of God, whole and complete in this now moment.
- Each of us is here with a piece of the puzzle, and so we are not whole without the whole of us.
- What great work does God have going on in this person - that I do not see yet?
- What in this encounter do I have to learn - what to teach?
- Thank you God for this opportunity.
Approach everyone blank and unconditionally open. Expect the highest and best from each of you. BE OPEN.
In my church their is a point in the service where the congregation is invited to turn to others and shake hands or hug. We are encouraged to do so with those we do not know. This is a great thing, but I do not think it goes far enough. I would propose that at one service we take the entire service and create what I call a duality free zone.
Before I discuss this proposal, let me describe a personal experience of a duality free zone. A duality free zone is a space where all involved are completely free of seeing the world in black and white terms; in terms of this or that, of I'm right and you are wrong. Of good or evil. I was attending a three day conference for training of what in our church are called prayer chaplains. During these three days we prayed individually; we prayed in pairs; we prayed in small groups, and we prayed as a full group. We prayed and prayed and prayed. After three days the atmosphere of the room in which we met changed. There was a palpable sense of oneness, of peace, of love. It was a wonderful experience intensely felt by eveyone in the room. We all became one. We became peace; we became love. It was part of the room, of the air we breathed. What was created by these three days of prayer was a duality free zone. The ego world was gone and we were one. The power of prayer was manifest.
So let's take this as an example and use a church service to create a duality free zone. Let everyone in this proposed congregation take a moment and face another person in the room and each say to the other -" namaste " (I behold the Divine Presence in you). Then each embrace this other person in a moment of quiet and both say after a moment - You and I are one. Then look each other in the eye and say "You and I are One, I love you. Hold the embrace quietly as long as feels right. Become fully aware of the other presence.
The imortant thing in doing this exercise, is for each person to go around and do the same thing with every other person in the room. Slowly and quietly. After everyone has done the same thing with everyone else, what do you think will be the atmosphere in the room? There will be a duality free zone. It will be palpable. There will be peace and love and oneness in the very air everyone breathes. Everyone will be a part of it.
I have not tried this yet - but I know what this focus on love and oneness will produce. My point is that we must as a world society approach each other in an unconditionally open way, and look for ways to drop the divisions of apparent duality as we encounter each other. This is a pathway leading from the collapsing paradigm of our ossified Age of Hubris and Certitiude to a new Age of Humility.