The first step is to realilze that it is our own thoughts that keep us in bondage in our outer circumstances. There are many ways we can be bound, but it is in our ability to let go of any need to control, that the chains of our outer circumstances begin to loosen. It is letting go of the need to have our own way that will begin to change our outer experiences. It is the path to becoming free. What is the nature of this freedom that we may experience if we follow this path?
Most all spiritual traditions speak to this. That freedom is non-attachment is found in many spiritual sources. Consider from the Sufi tradition the words of Rumi: "Take someone who doesn't keep score. Who's not looking to be richer, or afraid of losing, who has not the sligthtest interest even in his own personality: he's free." It is a seemingly great spiritual paradox, but really a great spiritual truth that it is in letting go of our desires that our desires are manifest. Letting go and letting God breaks many links in our chains. Trust God and be open to whatever comes. Becoming empty of all willfulness opens us to the unlimited goodenss of God's grace.
Essential to non-attachment or letting go is living in the now moment. This is simply accepting that here and now all is well - in this moment - any given moment. It is acknowledging that even in adversity there can be peace - in the now moment. It is letting go of worry about the future in the now moment , letting go of any need to change others in the now moment, it is letting go of our past problems in the now moment. It is in any given moment being empty so God can fill us. An affirmation for non-attachment and letting go in the now moment is:
I am an integral, purposeful, necessary part of God, whole and complete in this moment. I turn everything in my life over to God and am at peace and all is well in this moment. Thank you, God.
Be empty, be open, be silent - and watch the chains fall away.
Gene Ford Runnels