When our lives are busy with children, careers, hobbies, family and friends, it can feel very challenging to find time alone. When we feel like there is no room in our lives to take care of ourselves, we can choose to look at our schedule. What can we let go of ? Self-care and self-soothing are very important in helping us keep balance and love in our lives.
"We need a certain kindness and generosity to ourselves before we learn kindness and generosity to others." Lin Yutang"'
It is important to take time alone away from the busyness and stress and general craziness of the world. It is important to be silent for a while in order to be in touch with ourselves. As Dyan Diamond says this aloneness with ourselves is the path to inner peace. However, we live in a world that actively disdains solitude. We live in a world where silence has become an anathema. Let's think a bit about our own inner peace and the world at large. Most of the following can be found in Newsletter Number 3 - The Silence Imperative:
I believe the future of humankind depends on silence! On our own inner silence, on silence in every individual heart
. . . We live in a world that actively disdains quietude. For example it seems almost impossible to escape television. It is in restaurants while we eat. It is in doctor's offices while we wait. It is even lately at gas pumps while we pump gas, and in front of us on treadmills while we exercise.
And today there is so much more than just "elevator music." There is music at the supermarket, music at the mall. Music in almost all commercial establishments. Music is a most beautiful and blessing vibration of God, but not when used simply to distract. Notice how often in restaurants you will find music competing with several televisions tuned to different stations. It becomes simply noise. Simply DISTRACTION. This constant presence of television and music is the noise our egos use to hide from the reality of who we really are. They are there to keep us from the benefits of solitude.
Today we have all manner of media devices we carry with us so as to constantly have some form of distraction. Distractions which keep us from facing ourselves. In the world today we never have to be disconnected from the "monkey mind" of society. With these devices, never has the fear of knowing one's self been on display so obviously and everywhere. This ubiquitous avoidance of self-knowledge displayed in plain sight is completely overlooked for what it really is. This active societal disdain of quietude we find all around us is purposeful- and negative. What is to be found in the silence is the still small voice of inner guidance. The fear of the world at large is that we might actually "Be still and know." So the world constantly attempts this bombardment of noise and distraction. This noise is fear.
So as Dyan Diamond says, to take time alone is a way to keep love in our lives. REGULARLY TAKE TIME AWAY FROM THE WORLD. To spend time alone in silence is the path to experiencing the Divine Presence within. Taking peaceful time alone to go within allows us to truly know ourselves, to love ourselves. To love others.
Gene Ford Runnels