"'Trying to "solve" other people's problems is really saying "They have a problem and I need to help them solve it." If you don't feel a need to solve their problem, you just offer the best loving advice you can (with Holy Spirit's guidance). If you feel a need to help them then you recognize that you are not at peace and ask for the Holy Spirit's help before you give any advice. If you don't do this first you become an "unhealed healer" and your advice will not be helpful to your friend or you."'
This has reminded me of the approach to healing of Joel Goldsmith. Goldsmith would listen to those who came to him, but in prayer for them would never pray for the thing or the healing for which they were requesting help. He said his approach was to hold them, in the silence, envisioning them as whole and complete beings. In seeing them as whole and complete beings, as God sees them, many were healed. He said, "No one is completely whole until they find themselves at home in God." When we pray for others our prayer should be for them to find their home in God, as we visualize them whole and complete. There is no spiritual duty to "solve" someone else's "problem." In fact we can never really know what someone else's "problem" truly is. When attempting to be a spiritual blessing to others for whom we care a great deal, we should affirm - I am called to carry the message, not the person.
Not only can we never know the true nature of their "problem," we can never know what God has going on in their life. We should never become involved in "solving" their "problem." what we should do:
First pray for Divine guidance in all we do. Turn our lives and our actions over to God and be open to guidance.
In silent prayer and meditation, turn the person over to God's perfect care and keeping, affirming that all is in Divine order. Release any need for a particular result or outcome in their life. In the silence open yourself to the Divine within. Hold them in your heart as the perfect creation of God that they are, whole and complete in the now moment. Visualize them as whole and opening to the awarenss of the Presence of God within. Affirm for them - may you always sail on a peaceful sea, with joy in your heart, no matter life's circumstances.
May we all find ourselves at home in God.
BEHOLD THE LIGHT IN EVERYONE!
(I BEHOLD THE DIVINE PRESENCE AS YOU)